MAGIC! versus Feminism

by - 3:50 PM

Turn on the radio and you'll hear MAGIC!'s song Rude. It's everywhere. But for once, I don't mind the ginormous hype around a mediocre song. I actually like this song, for the same reason that I like One Direction: this music makes me fall asleep without needing my medication. Let me hear two chords of a One Direction song and I'm sound asleep. MAGIC! is even more effective: one chord and I'm out. Pretty great for a girl who usually needs a pill to fall asleep within four hours, right?
So I downloaded Rude from Youtube and looked at the comments. I always do that, because I'm still naive enough to believe that Youtube is a place where people comment harmoniously and all love each other. Of course I do know better, but I still have hope for the people of the internet. Wait, made that 'I had hope'. The comments on Rude were really bad. Not just the hate comments from the every day internet hater, but also from overexcited feminists with a lack of attention. OMG a girl is not a possession, you can't ask her Dad if you can marry her, she's not a slave blahblahblah. Stuff like that.
Before I continue, I want to make one thing clear: I am not a feminist, I am a girl who appreciates her independence. I think feminism can be a good thing. But sometimes you feminists take it waaaay to far. Just walk through the lyrics with me and I'll show you around. Maybe there'll be some time left to find tolerance at the end of the day!

"Saturday morning
jumped out of bed
and put on my best suit"

I think we all agree that every guy can jump out of his bed and wear his best suit on Saturday if he likes to. I mean, I knew a guy who wore suits just because he liked suits. No issues here. I hope.

Got in my car
raced like a jet
all the way to you
knocked on your door
with heart in my hand

Maybe it's because English is not my first language, but when I hear someone say he's coming over with his heart in his hand, I interpret it like this: the guy is sincere and has the best intentions, because he's showing his true feelings. That, or he's a psycho who ripped his heart out and is literally holding it in his hand. I think I'll stick with my first option.

To ask you a question
'cause I know that you're an old fashioned man

No trouble just yet, but it's coming since people completely ignore this part. The whole point of this song comes down to these lines. He's doing this because his girlfriend's Dad has certain values and he respects that. See? That's how it's done. He respects it and by asking for his girlfriend's hand he is only being polite, not possessive.

Can I have your daughter for the rest of my life
Say yes, say yes, cause I need to know
You say I'll never have your blessing till the day I die
Tough luck my friend but the answer is no!

So here we see the dialogue in which it all goes wrong. On every level. First of all I feel sorry for the guy, because he was trying to be polite and he gets nothing in return. Second: this is the part where everyone starts hating and I don't understand why. Yes, he asks if he can marry his girlfriend. Maybe not in a very common way, but he means to be with her for the rest of their lives. He's asking her Dad because he knows it's polite and he'll feel bad if he goes off to marry this girl without having asked her Dad if it was okay. Neither the father nor the boyfriend see the girl as a possession that gets handed over on her wedding day. She's not a freaking couch or something and they know that! I think it tells more about you than it does about the song if you think that this is about people treating a girl like a sack of potatoes.

Why you gotta be so rude?
Don't you know I'm human too?
Why you gotta be so rude?
I'm gonna marry her anyway
Marry that girl
Marry her anyway
Marry that girl
No matter what you say
Marry that girl
Why you gotta be so rude?

So the dude responds with a musical equivalent of giving the man the finger. Not very nice, but he feels like he has done everything he could to show he's worthy of marrying this man's daughter. He goes on by saying his feelings were hurt by the curt way this man answered his question. In my eyes they're both being rude to each other. But coming back to the femenistic rants on this part: he's telling us he's going to marry the girl anyway. Which means he doesn't see her as her father's possession, he only asked because he knew this man would have appreciated it. So this is a modern couple in every way, but they respect the values of the father.

I hate to do this
You leave no choice
Can't live without her
Love me or hate me
We will be boys
Standing at that altar
Or we will run away
To another galaxy you know

More of the same: he asked because it was the polite thing to do, but they want to get married even though the answer is no.

You know she's in love with me
She will go anywhere I go

Now this is the only part my inner feminist truly dislikes. So a girl who's in love will follow a guy everywhere without thinking about consequences? Big dislike. It's like saying girls can't decide where to go and thus we'll go wherever a man tells us to go. I'm sorry, but this part is clingy and possessive. No wonder the father is totally done with this dude after hearing this.
If you don't mind, I'm skipping the chorus and we'll go straight to the next tiny part.

...cause the answer's still no!

Yeah, maybe you shouldn't have said that you'll run away together...
So it goes on a while, repeating the same things over and over again. I can't find much fault with it. Okay, I don't like the 'she will go anywhere I go' part, because it sounds like he's talking about a dog. But I don't see the problem. He's made it clear he's sincere, he loves this girl, he wanted to be polite and didn't get the answer he wanted. What's oppresive about that?

And then there's the people who aren't feminists but annoy the crap out of me by saying: 'He wouldn't get my daughter either, he looks poor/can't dance/has long hair. That, my dear friends, is absolute BS. The guy really looks crazy when he dances, he could use some shampoo and of course he's not a millionaire (yet). But is that really a reason to make your daughter hate you? Apparently the answer to that question is yes.

So did you have fun leaving hate comments on a video from MAGIC!? I hope so, since I had a lot of fun writing a hate post on your comments. Really, tolerance isn't so hard. Neither is thinking, by the way. Have a nice day :)

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4 Fellow Ramblers

  1. Never heard of this song but your feed back on other people's feed back was really nice to read. I agree with most of what you wrote. I'm of the opinion that when a guy comes to ask a man for his daughter's hand, the daughter should have a say in the opinion- not have the dad reject people right from the beginning. But you're right, everyone has their opinions and they really need to learn to respect that.
    Good post :D

    1. I hadn't thought much of the daughter's opinion, you're right that she has a say in this too. I didn't write about that because it's 'tradition' in my country for a guy to ask a man if he can marry his daughter and if the man says yes, the guy will propose to the girl. I had that in the back of my mind while writing this, but I agree that the girl should have a say. Actually, I think her opinion on the matter is most important of all.
      Thank you for the kind comment, I'm even thinking of doing more posts of this kind now :)

  2. I haven't seen the video (yet, I'll do so after this) but yeah, that seems bad. :/ Great post! (P.S. Can you change me to an admin? I know you're busy, but that's the only thing stopping me from not being able to install your design. Just do it when you have freetime. :D )

    xoxo Morning

    1. Oh my gosh, I thought I'd already made you an admin! Anyway, I fixed it immediately. Thanks for your comment and for reminding me!


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